Make up your mindset
It was a Tuesday afternoon and I was helping my nine year
old daughter with her list of 10 spelling words. She correctly spelled 6 of them and was stuck
on the other 4. She started silently
crying as I corrected them.
Me - “What’s going on Em?
Why are you so upset?”
9yo - “I got so many wrong…I’m just bad at this.”
Me - “Em you just got these words yesterday! No one expects you to know them already…that’s why we are working on them!”
9yo - “I just can’t do it.”
9yo - “I got so many wrong…I’m just bad at this.”
Me - “Em you just got these words yesterday! No one expects you to know them already…that’s why we are working on them!”
9yo - “I just can’t do it.”
I watched her shoulders drop. Every Monday she has a
pre-test, then on Friday the final test, so in my mind we had 4 more days
and this was all part of learning. In
her mind she was dumb for not knowing them immediately. This mindset is not
unique to my kiddo… I see this in my classrooms every semester.
In Carol Dweck’s book “Mindset” she details what she called fixed
mindset and growth mindset. A student
with a fixed mindset looks at each moment as a snapshot – a still picture of
what they can and can’t do and by extension how intelligent they are. If they get 6 out of 10 on a spelling test –
they are stupid. If they get 10 out of
10 on a spelling test they are smart.
But if asked to take the more advanced list the next week they would
decline, fearing a worse score and failure.
According to the book, “A fixed mindset is always judging yourself by
your last failure or success”. This manifests itself in the college classroom as a week 4
exodus, a percentage of students just stop showing up when the material gets
hard.
A student with a growth mindset would get bored with the
easy test and want to learn more even if that meant a drop in scores. A growth mindset values learning and growth
over perfection – because as we know…no one is perfect. No one sees an infant and thinks “What a
dolt! He can’t even walk yet!” Of course
he can’t, he hasn’t learned. Humans inherently
want to know more and do more – but respond to environmental conditions as they
become aware of their surroundings and respond to the fear of failure.
There is another phenomenon that accompanies the week 4 exodus – the week 4 major change.
In addition to the fear of failure and the attribution of that
failure to a lack of intelligence, students are often derailed by the concept
of “right”. It is my contention, based
on 10 years in the classroom, that Millennials have been sold a bill of goods
by the world around them that there is a “right” thing. A right career, a right path, a right major,
a right place, a right time. That if a
student only finds that right thing, they will have found success. Unfortunately the act of FINDING something
implies that the work is done when you uncover it.You found it!
In college a student might choose a major they are passionate about, and in doing so think they might have FOUND the right thing. But a few weeks into class they are confronted with material that is new and difficult. The simple act of facing difficulty leads them to question if they are in fact on the RIGHT path…because if it is right, then why is it so hard? If it was right wouldn’t I already be good at it?
In college a student might choose a major they are passionate about, and in doing so think they might have FOUND the right thing. But a few weeks into class they are confronted with material that is new and difficult. The simple act of facing difficulty leads them to question if they are in fact on the RIGHT path…because if it is right, then why is it so hard? If it was right wouldn’t I already be good at it?
This flawed notion that destiny is the path of least resistance stands in the way of greatness, because without difficulty there is no growth and without growth there is no mastery.
The good news is that no one has a permanently fixed or
growth mindset. Transition periods in
life like going to college bring out the fixed mindset in all of us because we
are uncertain about our future and want a sign that we are doing the right
thing. My advice to you is to remember
that there is no “right” major. Study
something that you are interested in, something that you enjoy…even if it is
hard. The enjoyment is the sign that you are making a good choice, not the level of ease.
Recognize failures (you will have many) as setbacks to be
improved upon…not indictments of your intelligence or ability. When
you get a bad grade, ask yourself if you really put in the work to master that
skill or if you just assumed that you would do well. Fate isn’t a substitute for effort and luck
is only really valuable if you have the right skills when opportunity
knocks.
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